Episode 113

What Exactly is Supportive Self-Care

Published on: 10th August, 2025

In this episode, Jill and Linda explore what supportive self-care really means—from those precious early morning moments before the kids wake up to the reality of lost support systems and changing boundaries. They get real about the struggle of finding time when one kid's up at 5:15 AM and another won't sleep until 11 PM, plus navigate the tricky terrain of asking for (and actually receiving) the support we desperately need but often minimize.

In this episode, you'll hear:

  • Why Jill's new morning devotional space is changing her entire day
  • The reality of family drama swimming in the background of self-care
  • How Linda's little one singing "Incy Wincy Spider" on repeat became this week's unexpected joy
  • Why supportive self-care isn't just about others—it's about how we set ourselves up for success
  • The challenge of diverse sleep schedules destroying any chance at alone time
  • How institutions (summer camps, daycare) sometimes become our only "village"
  • Why we minimize the support we need, especially around self-care
  • The tricky dance of setting boundaries with family while not abandoning them
  • How catching up with cousins at the park (while pretending to be a giant pigeon) counts as supportive self-care
  • The accountability gap—why asking "How are you?" rarely leads to "Did you take time for yourself?"

We might not have the support system we thought we had. We might be navigating new boundaries with aging parents or overwhelmed partners. We might be relying on kickboxing schedules and school drop-offs as our only breaks. This episode is your reminder that supportive self-care looks different for everyone—and sometimes it's just about creating that one tiny space downstairs where you can hide (until Declan finds you).

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

  • 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we'll send our favorite five simple ideas.
  • 👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
  • 💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com
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About the Podcast

Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast
Real, Raw and Unedited Conversations From Two Global Moms/Mums
A podcast for moms about the real, raw, and unscripted perspectives of guilt-free self-care by two moms across the globe. This unedited podcast is real life and their personal experiences told in friendly conversation style. Advocating for all moms who have mucked up their self care.

There are so many others out there that aren't successfully solving the real problem of trying to figure out what self-care is. We want to bring to light the reality of what self-care can look like for moms who struggle to fit it in, don't know what will work for them, and the ways that it hasn't worked. We want to have conversations about the guilt we feel when we are pressured to mother ourselves when we don't know how and aren't given the support to in our society today.

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Jill Olish

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Linda Bonney

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